What a great title, right? I mean, who doesn't want to know the top two secrets for fat loss?
Look, let's be real for a bit. There are a TON of different ways to lose weight. Some are 'healthy', some are, unfortunately, not. Some provide lasting results while most, unfortunately, do not.
Now, don't get me wrong. Of COURSE the food matters. Of course it does. BUT you can know the exact right things to eat. You can have a lists of food that are good, and lists of food that are bad, but at the end of the day, if you don't have these two things in place, I truly believe that you won't be successful.
So let's talk about what they are:
1. A System
2. A Community
The most important thing when it comes to fat loss, the most important thing when it comes to any new program that you're going to undertake, is a system. It's deciding what to do and then going about it in a methodical way that makes sense. This is what sets you up for success, and it's really under-valued. Finding a system and doing things one step at a time is completely undervalued. We tend to just want to know all the information and think that's enough, right?
We also tend to want to just jump in and change everything. And at the end of the day, human beings don't like change. Our bodies are programmed to stay the same, so what happens when we try to make big changes, is that our body fights us on it. Our mind fights us on it. So we're already swimming upstream as soon as we start to make those changes. Not fun, right?
My point is, you have to make it easier to change than it is to see the same. And that sounds really crazy but in effect that's what you have to do to set yourself up for success. So when I say you need a system that's what I'm talking about. You need a step by step plan of how you are going to create this change in a way that makes sense, in a way that gives you the best chance for success and in a way that makes you feel supported.
Let's look at an example that has nothing to do with fat loss. Let's imagine you're invited to a party and you've never been to the address in question before. The way I look at it, you have 3 options to getting there:
1. Drive around aimlessly looking for the street name. It's got to be somewhere, right? You'll probably eventually find it (especially if you stop every now and then asking for directions), but it will take a WHILE and you might miss the party.
2. Pull out your paper road map and map out a route. You may have to pull over occasionally if you miss a turn, or there are detours due to construction, or things have changed since that map was printed. You'll get there, but it may not be super fast.
3. Plug that address into Google Maps and hit go. You'll know turn by turn how to get where you want to go. If there's a delay, Google will walk you through it, find an alternate route or advise you to keep going. That's the difference in having a system. You know what to do, step by step, to get to your destination, and you'll also know how to recalculate when there's an issue. Let's face it, there are always going to be detours. The unexpected is ALWAYS going to happen. We're talking real life, and real life is messy.
I want you to seriously think about your approach to changing anything or taking on anything in terms of those three options. Don't just pick a destination with no clear way of getting there. Use a system. Get the tools so you get there faster AND with less mistakes along the way.
The second thing, which could arguably be even more important, is community. You need people behind you. You need support. It doesn't matter who you are because we all need support. We all need people to help pick us up when we fall down. We all need people to give us willpower and motivation and all of the things that we don't have at that moment in time. We need people in our corner. That's the big difference with people who are successful versus people who are not. People who are successful at anything whether it's a diet, a career or even parenting tend to have a community and rely on that community to help. They don't try to do it alone.
In my opinion, community is the reason that Weight Watchers has been so successful. It's not the eating plan. I mean, the eating plan is just a calorie restricted diet. It's not rocket science and it doesn't really do much in terms of long term success because it's calorie restriction. It's that community. It's going to Weight Watchers meeting. It's the coffee afterwards. That's why people love it. People are successful, because they feel like they're in a community and you want to succeed for the community not even for yourself anymore.
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