So I'm sitting here sipping a coffee, listening to The Tragically Hip and watching little tiny snowflakes fall onto a very cold looking lake. I had to laugh a bit about how very 'Canadian' this entire scene is.
It got me thinking about another very 'Canadian' thing that I'm trying to end.
You know the over the top politeness us Canadians are known for that has us apologizing for random things that we have no business apologizing for?
I was at dinner last night (we're on a little mid week mini vacay) and there was a breadbasket at dinner. Now I'm not super strict with what I do/don't eat on vacation, but bread just doesn't do it for me anymore. I'd much rather have an extra glass of wine and dessert....ya know?
So anyway, when the waiter came back, he commented on the fact that I wasn't having any, and I found myself APOLOGIZING and trying to explain myself.
Do you ever do that? Apologize for your food choices? Like it should matter to anyone else? Like you need to justify what you choose to eat and not eat?
So...while I'll still apologize if I random bump into someone, or am in front of someone in line or some other hilarious thing that's very Canadian and unnecessary, I'm going to make a conscious effort NOT to apologize for my food choices.
I want you to do the same thing. Eat what makes you feel good. Don't feel the need to explain it to anyone. You do you. If there are comments, know that it's about that person feeling insecure about their OWN food choices when they watch you make yours. It's not really about you or your decisions.
A friend of mine has the best response ever when someone comments on something they really have no business commenting on: Thank you for noticing.
You're not eating bread? What's that about?
Thank you for noticing! No, I'm not eating bread tonight.
How much better is that than an entire tirade meant to justify why you are not eating said bread and avoid judgement for it.
So next time you get a comment that is completely inappropriate and you feel the need to justify, stop and try this tactic instead.
Let me know how it works for you!