Do you ever feel like you’ve spent the last few years on a hamster wheel? Working SO HARD to basically stay in the exact same place?
I know how frustrating that can be.
If you’re working this hard and you STILL haven’t lost the weight you may as well give up right? It’s not worth starting another year banging your head against the wall, doing the exact same things like cutting calories and avoiding your faves (which is really HARD) only to see no results. Right?
My thoughts? Yes and no.
Yes. Please stop doing the same thing you’ve been doing year after year all the while making yourself miserable and not seeing results. That serves no one.
But as for giving up on your goal completely? Not quite.
First of all, if you never fail at anything you never really get good at it. Failure isn't the end of the road (although it's really really frustrating). Failure is how we learn and how we grow. The most important thing? Failure means you're trying. Make sure you fail forward. Take everything you learn from each failure to the next attempt. You'll succeed eventually, and when you do it will be because of all the failure.
Secondly, think about the fact that you’re still trying. The fact that you still have a goal you’re determined to meet. Those are pretty impressive things and who knows where you’d be right now if you HADN’T been working this hard?
Maybe there are other things going on in your life like crazy stress, an injury, a major life change, a bacteria imbalance in your gut, an illness, etc that would have caused a major weight GAIN in the last year. Maybe the fact that you maintained where you were is a really impressive feat.
Your weight doesn’t exist in a bubble. It exists as part of you, and it’s impacted by every other area of your mental and physical health. Don’t forget that in times of stress (whether emotional or physical), your body usually reacts by increasing energy stores (aka fat) to get you through. It’s biology. It’s really really hard to fight biology.
So getting back to that hamster wheel analogy, if it sounds like you, this is what I think you should do:
Stop for a minute. Take a step back and evaluate. What else was going on in your life BESIDES trying to lose weight? Really acknowledge everything you went through over the past year and be kind to yourself if you didn’t meet your goals. Life can be really hard-you don’t need to make it harder with harsh unfair judgement. If you had a tough year, maybe good is good enough. Celebrate that you’re where you are right now (wherever that is).
Look at what you were doing to lose the weight. Were you trying the same thing over and over again? Failing and then getting right back on that very same horse? The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Remember that this year. We are all a little different, and what works for one isn’t always the best decision for another. If cutting calories and using willpower to avoid your favourite foods makes you miserable please don’t do that this year.
Envision what you want to see at this time next year, and reverse engineer it. Do you want to have lost 20lbs? Have more energy? Stop struggling to get through the afternoon without eating 3 chocolate bars? How do you do that? Make a list of the changes needed to get there and address them one at a time.
Above all, I hope you recognize this: that sometimes good is good enough. That you are right where you need to be right now, and that being frustrated or disappointed with yourself doesn’t serve your highest purpose. What does serve it is recognizing your problems, setting your goals and working smarter this year to achieve them.
If you need help with that, please reach out. That’s what I do. I’ll help you work smarter, pick the right foods, and above all learn how to eat to get the results you’ve been running in circles for.
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